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I think… I didn’t blog much about my son… I think… I should do that…

My son - Hanler is now 11months and 9days old. He borned with a very very chubby face… everyone said he looks like me - a very ordinary chinese face without sharp feature. I still remember Dr. Tan showed him to us in deliver room by saying "See! He have birdy!" :D.

His name - "Thai Han Ler", the "Thai" is surname, "Han" means Scholar in oldtime traditional chinese dictionary now means "huge / a lot", and "Ler" means Happiness. We hope he will be a Happy man always. Jason and me will never expect him to be "someone"… but rather we want him to choose who he want to be! If possible, we hope he’ll be a doctor that able to save people life without asking for return, not even money!

From the moment he delivered till now, my mom taking care of him more than me taking care him. I remembered it was a night (the very first week after he borned) when I tried to breastfeed him, he throw out all the milk suddenly, even through his nose too! That was a scary night… I quickly wake my mom up, she helped to comfort Hanler! Then, I have to bottle feed him formula milk.

My breastfeed experience was bad, I think is was due to I was not well prepared! I was very sad when I decided to stop breastfeed him… I think I not able to give him the best. You (especially a guy) may not able to feel how I feel that time… it was really down…!!!!

Hanler slowly attracted by surrounding sound, he also started to have eye-contact with us. He sucks the pacifier really hard, like worry the pacifier will flyaway…! Everytime while he sleeping, I loves to play his fingers… hold his palm… feel so warm and peace.

I was surprise and still surprise, baby nowdays learn REAL fast!!! Baby can give us surprise and joy from time to time, sometimes you are not prepared for it at all.

to be continue….

Last Friday, I went to KLCC in the evening around 6pm. I parked my car at P1 6B, near to Topshop or Dunkin’ Donut exit. Had casual dinner with my hubby and Say Mun. Shop and bought a little cute jacket for my son.

After finished shopping, I headed to the Dunkin’ Donut lift and made the parking payment (the machine is right in front of the lift). Got into the lift and headed to level P1. If you guys are familiar with the parking at KLCC, the exit at Dunkin’ Donut to P1 parking require us to walk a small covered (no glass, outside can’t see what’s happen inside) distance before reaching our car.

While I walking out, I saw a guys (Indon / Malay) walked towards my direction. I then alerted and keep my eyes on him. The closer we walk to each other, I then know something will definitely happen, either molest or snatching. It is too early for me to scream and too late for me run. I get myself ready to counter.

As we were just about 1 foot distance, he tried to snatch my purse (I was holding the purse since I made the payment just now). However, he failed to grab anything from me and I quickly step backward and shouted "PUKI MAK LU ENGKAU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" I wanted to continue shout but then he seems more scare and worried then me… he then ran into to the door (opened door) but I don’t dare to chase because I wouldn’t know what’s behind the door.

The guy did all this in front of the CCTV camera, I then walk to the car park and quickly wave to the security guard (normally the guard frequently round the carpark with their motorcycle) and told him the story. He quickly called his colleague and ran into the door.

I was lucky because the guy didn’t hold anything that might able to hurt me, else, screaming also useless. I then standing there and keep telling the ppl who walk passby about my incident, hoping them will be alert as they will use the same exit after finished shopping or dine later. Until I realised I’d pay the ticket!!! Then I quicky leave the place.

So, please use the entrace or exit where most ppl use. Don’t use lift rather, use escalator where we can still run if anything happen. Be very alert all the time…!!! To me, KLCC is just another JB now.

Recently come across with a pay programme call "Score A Programme" from my sister. Although my son still too young for these, but no harm understand more about the trend of current education flow.

This "Score A Programme" giving the idea, the education scheme nowdays (apply mainly to Primary and Secondary students) are majority "input learning".

(Example of "input learning")
- Teacher speech, student listening
- Read book
- Watching TV
- Memorising what we see

There is nothing wrong about input learning, it is the basic way of how we can learn but when human learning is lack of interaction, the learning progress tend to be slower and inefficient. "Score A Programme" is promoting something call "Output learning", it means, the student should start throw out the question, asking "why?", "why this and why not that?".

When normally we asked "why?", it is when we being throw by a question and slowly discover more. This model is similar when we reach college / univercity level or even a professional certification level. By looking at a problem, we will ask why these and that will happened. "Score A Programme" gives the student a similar way to prepare for the exam. The base system was being designed and maintain by a group of experienced teachers and personnel from ministry of education. It equipped with the most up-to-date examination format and "past year questions".

All questions are featured with instant marking, student can get the right answer without flipping back and forward between. The system able to keep track on all the progress, student can even join the nationwide hall of fame to know the personally ability on the particular subject.

Everytime when student finished one accessment, the parents will be able to know the overall results via sms. It provides a chances for working parents to get to know their kids, maybe even better, rewards the kids when necessary.

According to the source of information, the students who had been take up the programme found the actual exam actually easier than what they thought (because they seen the similar question and practise enough before).

For student who doesn’t like facing paper and book (especially the boy kids nowdays, my newphew - Chun Yi giving us headache time), this is an alternative way to helps them do the relevant revision interactively, Chun Yi did it, and his Mathematic got improved - this proof - practise make perfect (I know no one is perfect but it did improve). For student who loves study (my niece - Kai Yin), she tried and she likes it very much, she even place number 8 on the Nationwide Top 100 Hall of Fame chart.

Overall, if you asked me, is it really worth it? I will say, no harm try, children learning opportunity should NEVER be take away. I calculated the pricing, it is not expensive after all. With the covered subjects, the big questions bank, a lot of proven succesful role model, should let the children try (never asked your child whether they want or not; children first mindset, when parents talk to them about homework / exam, things will never run from the word "pressure", get the system up, let them do the click and slowly adjust). Remember, NEVER KILL THE CHANCES FOR THE CHILD TO LEARN AND EXPLORER.

If you have curiosity to find out more, please do so by:
- visit:  http://cblog.cari.com.my/?167754
- email:  varrenzseok@yahoo.com
- windows live messenger: varrenz@hotmail.com

You may request a system demo.

最近得知原來我們的習俗來源國—中國,已進入文明祭祀，嚴禁在林區、公墓（殯儀館）林帶和城市街道焚燒祭祀用品。緬懷故人、追思故人儘量採用網上祭祀、召開集體或家庭“追思會”、敬獻鮮花等文明節儉的形式。違者將依《安徽省城市市容和环境卫生管理条例》、《合肥市城市绿化管理条例》、《合肥市环城公园环境管理办法》予以处罚。

看到中國有這樣的條例，我真的很開心，因為這個人口密集的國家，只要他們每人為著地球貢獻一點點，影響很大! 最值得開心的，中國不只是轉注經濟進步，環保意識也很強。

話說回到馬來西亞（一個自稱為”大馬能”的國家, 其實不只領袖不能, 交通不能,連教育也不能的國家）。

昨天跟家人到廣義去拜祭家公,很多人很多煙。看到那種燒香燒蠟燭燒衣紙的煙，這種熱騰騰的情況，我卻為這個地球流了很多冷汗。大人帶著小孩拜祭祖先，其實是所為的盡孝意，追思先人和感恩。但這一切都變得很商業化了，無良廠商做出各色各樣簡陋的紙扎物品，買的人看得有趣，賣的人口袋聚聚。你可以看見:

- 迷你型飛機，到了地府會發大成747（別忘了買一罐”發粉” ，要一同燒）
- 不能轉的風扇，卻有不到一呎長得”電線”（可能電線也會變長，”發粉”也用得著）而且是用牙籤做成插頭
- 只有空盒的”Pair牌” ，裡面的52張牌都拿去弄其他祭品
- 最典型的就是沒有電線插頭的電視機
- 甚至現在連內衣褲都有
- 哦! 還有,現在地府錢的價值已很大了，不再用100,000,000 的鈔票了，遲些可能跟美金1:1匯率，可以考慮買來收而不是買來燒!

想想這些東西都是要燒，廠家當然不會用心去做,要的都是錢。再想想，這些東西真的給先人用嗎? 如果死了可以擁有那麼多的傭人、那麼多的財富、飛機、大車、洋樓每年一棟接一棟，那麼大家還留在世界乾嘛，乾脆在陽府請一個人每年定時燒東西下來, 大伙兒一起下去，日子不是過得更好嗎?

可能你會說我口不擇言，但是我是有宗教信念的人。我相信前因後果，我相信做壞是不會有好報，但我不鼓勵迷信。人死了，始終是塵歸塵、土歸土，不帶走任何東西，只留下後人的追憶。中國有這樣的政策不鼓勵人們燒衣紙是應該的，我們繼續這樣做，只會讓不孝子以為燒多一點東西就可以彌補過錯真（其實是沒用的，死仔!!），最重要的是會令到這個地球提早滅亡。

如果你到現在還不知道甚麼是溫室效應，我可以說你是沒有時事觸覺絕的人，如果你認為時事只是經濟和政治，那我可以結論你為沒有知識的人。沒有任何東西是重要過我們的地球，你以為有錢真的可以移居月球嗎? 別天真了! 請學習中國, 緬懷故人、追思故人儘量採用網上祭祀、召開集體或家庭“追思會”、敬獻鮮花等文明節儉的形式。

最後，一個小小的思考空間:
這是我昨天在廣義聽到的

小孩, “為甚麼要燒這些東西?”
大人, “這些東西燒給先人的”
小孩追問, “他們可以用嗎?”
大人, “… …”

請好好教育下一代, 好好保護身邊的一切資源。凡事都會物盡, 別太過分! 讓下一代能繼續住在健健康康的地球! 停止焚燒祭祀用品, 包括燒香!

Last year, 15th Oct, I miss a bus going to Singapore early in the morning. Spend double to get another pair of ticket for both Fook and me. We had breakfast at one of the mamakstall opposite Puduraya before run to the next bus. We played around with new camera and phone camera. Chat, listened songs and slept in bus.

At the Singapore custom, I’d some argument with a dumb ass who cut our queue. The damn bus left us at custom. We took bus from MRT station. Reach Chinatown and walk along to road just to look for the hotel. Also bought a Dry-meat snack… yummy… then later I found out, it is also available in M’sia… damn, so expensive there.

Finally, I met Ten at hotel. Fook and me take turn to bath. 3 of us took taxi to Kluang (I can’t recall the name 100%) KFC outlet. Met Beyond Fans there.

Met Kelvin, Ah Hoi, Michael, Seok Kheng, Beh, Chew Ling… these are name and faces I still remember… as for other, like Caroline, Andrea too… ooh.. also a guy who wearing spec… a japanese fan… ooh… also Kelly… who else… I seems able to recall more and more now…

Some Beyond fans really hardcore, they seems to know everything about Beyond… Salute to them.

We walked towards Stadium, we sang along the road.

We was allowed to bring camera in, Singapore is good! Haha…

The show started on-time, almost all fans standing throughout the show. Ohh.. before I forget, I met Siew Ting in stadium too. I cried in the half way of the show… just like what I did during 2003 concert in Msia… feel sad Koma pass away like that!!

It was a really great show, no encore as annouced earlier. After show finished, we walked back to KFC, I ate again… We then took taxi to a food court… gathering again. Then back to hotel, bath and sleep..ZzzzzZZzzzZZzzz What a fun and tiring day!

All these seem happened yesterday…

Ok, back to track now….

After about 1 month plus busy days… sick days… crying days… sleepless nites… nitemare… etc etc… finally… everything settled!

From the day we know I’m pregnant… we’d planned to ignore all traditional ceremonies… include wedding dinner until I deliver on Sept! But, it wasn’t follow our wishes, parents insist for it, relatives start giving opinions, frens start asking about it. Pressures came from everywhere.

As during the planning, my hormones changed, I believe fook’s changed too! Fortunate enough, we still caring each other as much as we used to. Love is build stronger.

We was first in "kelam-kabut" don’t know where to start from… Parents giving comments… we should pick a date first. When to Loh Tit Pat, decided 5th March. Enquiried for Hotels / Restaurant quot, faxes start coming in… a lot of filtering process.

The worst part was, everything have to be on hold due to CNY. Shops are closed for at least 1 week, people are in holidays. While the week at home, parents keep chasing us for doing this and that.

On 6th Feb, businesses resume the operation, we was run out of time and parents start asking more and more, items for Gor Dai Lai, invitation card, photography (we HATE studio photo!!!), wedding gown + suit, the guest list arrangement, website update, room refurnish, cleaning house, liquor estimation… etc etc. Everything need to be gao dim in the remaining 4 weeks.

This 4 weeks was the MOST tiring / emotional / sleepless / less appertise time for both of us. Although still some little laughing moments, but we’d suffer lot, sex life changed from almost daily (hohoho!) to weekly. I think fook lin da fei gei dou mou lik (:P). I having heavy nausea… moody. Lucky enough, fook still care me a lot. I’d finally seen his most terrible pressured face, feel really sorry. I can’t do much tat moment, except holding his hand quietly…

"Greenday - Time of Your Life" comfort us a lot.

The final week we did a lot last minute purchase / decision. We bought the furniture on 14th Feb take photo (outdoor and studio photo, yuck!!), one week later select photo, 25th March, 26th Gor Dai Lai / Furniture assemble / bought aircond, 28th On Chong / Install aircond, 3rd confirm hairstylist, 4th Car decor / Gown and suit collection / Bought some makeup product (I do makeup myself) / Bachelor Nite, 5th The Big Day, 6th Slide preparation, 7th Dinner.

All this ended, and now we’re married but still pak tor mood, we just went for the movie "Fun with Dick and Jane" yesterday nite!

It’s something unpredictable but in the end is right, I hope you had the time of your life!

不想不想還是得要做!

乘著週末還有些空餘時間,我們跑到Loke Yew Road 的婚紗店做survey.

第一間,de paris image.

服務態度還可以,sample 照就爛了點,嗯… 我應該說是不合我倆的口味,有點反胃, 可能是我嘔仔：Ｐ　我們隨意看看部分的白紗晚裝，連配套也沒問，就跑出來了．

第二間，法國台北．

服務態度不錯，解釋蠻清楚，照片的風格也很滿意！考慮考慮！！

因為Touch 和另一間沒開，我們繼續往前走．．．

第三間，Venice Wedding Gallery.

我們其實也沒甚麼興趣要走進去，有位＂笑死＂（sales）　把我們給拉進去．

她的口頭禪，＂保你滿意＂，＂做靓靓俾你＂，＂放心吧！＂．．．

我倆看了他們的sample，真的沒甚麼興趣，她竟然送了再送，由先前的36張姐妹照增加到72張，多加一件晚裝供拍照，送結婚證書（好搞笑），送音樂盒（但他們沒有dropout 的歌，我們不要），最經典搞笑送（特別強調）少數入口花車公仔！！

菾賦看了那對公仔，竟然像我那樣有嘔仔的感覺！！我看了，笑呆了！！

我的容忍度幾乎去到極限時，那位＂笑死＂說，＂放心吧＂，我竟然告訴她，＂我不放心！＂．當她說＂信我！＂，我回答＂我不信！＂．

在那位＂笑死＂跟老闆的逼壓下，我們還是成功從裡頭逃了出來！！這就證明了，他們的照片風格是我倆完全不能接受的！！

回想那位＂笑死＂的逼功，實在是hardsell 和有點＂黑人憎＂！！

好朋友們都知道我與菾賦要結婚了,好快哦,因為我有喜了.

這場"意外"真的讓我倆有點喘不過氣來,全都要趕趕趕!

不是我倆要趕,是身邊"太監"急啊!!

全都是次序的問題,難道生了才結婚不能嗎?把自己的孩子作花童也不能嗎?難道只有陳奕迅和徐豪瑩才有這種福利嗎?

你們個個"太監"說怕人笑,要是怕,也沒有你們的份啊!!

好啊,要臉啊,竟然介紹我們去那些酒樓(九流),根本就開我們的玩笑!

我請願攤在家里,甚麼也不做,等生!!

結婚是兩人的事,但結婚儀式根本就是整村人的遊樂場,你一句,他一句,好不熱鬧!!

若是有多幾個野蠻阿姨,阿嫂,阿姑,我的肚子還沒大到見人,頭已經大到爆了,到時你們只見到血肉模糊的新娘與新郎!!

Ceremony = 意見多多 + 錢用多多 + 麻煩多多